I got sucked into the women-hating manosphere. Now I help others escape
CONTENT WARNING: This article contains references to mental health issues and suicidal thoughts.
Research shows 61% of young men in the UK regularly engage with masculinity influencers online. Will Adolphy was one of them. He talks about how he was drawn in, what happened next and why he chose a new path.
While the ladies are arguing over can be more offended by the C word, a wee chat with the lads for a second, if I may.
Dear men of Aotearoa New Zealand.
Brothers, Comrades, Mates & Fellow Blokes
There is a place for you on the NZ Left!
Now.
I appreciate that some of our more woke fourth-wave-feminist-non-binary-activist-vegan-mummy-blogger-Spinoff-subscribing-militant-cyclist-Trans-Rights Comrades have been a tad alienating (from between about 2016-2020), with their woke social media Lynch mobs but I want to reassure my Brothers, Comrades, Mates & Fellow Blokes that there is a place for them on the NZ Left.
Identity Politic Acolytes followed the holy trinity of woke dogma:
1 – All white men are irredeemable racists
2 – BELIEVE ALL WOMEN that ALL men are rapists
3 – Anyone who supports free speech is a Uniform wearing Nazi who hates the Trans Community.
REMEMBER – there is no wriggle room in any of that, ANYONE who ever jokes about that Holy Trinity must be terminally cancelled!
Pure Temple Politics and the narcissistic social justice minefield of hashtag activism kills the Broadchurch solidarity of class and allows for arseholes like Trump and this terrible right wing Government to get elected.
Not one working family in New Zealand is sitting around the kitchen table cancelling each other for misusing pronouns, they are trying to work out how to pay the bills!
Brothers, Comrades, Mates & Fellow Blokes
There is a place for you on the NZ Left!
Just because you have a penis doesn’t make you toxic!
Don’t feel alienated by the more woke voices of the Left, you should not side with the corporations and the Billionaires and the speculators.
300 000 years of evolution that have gifted you the altruism to protect isn’t a sin!
As a man AND as a citizen, you have an obligation to protect everyone weaker than you, and you should stand against corporate interests, implemented because our anger and alienation have been manipulated by their social media hate algorithms.
Look.
We hate each other thanks to social media.
While we hate each other more than ever before, we are more lonely than we have ever been before.
We are lonelier, more depressed and sicker.
Our loneliness, our depression, our sickness are all fomenting the spin of social media hate algorithms which only further polarise our debate into All Tribe and No Village politics.
I think we are a clever ape who has evolved over 300 000 years. Because we have to compete against other sentient and self conscious clever apes and work with them as groups so our intelligence and ability to use tools could change our environment, we have had to bond and understand each other over hundreds of thousands of years of evolution.
When we meet in person, our bodies and brains and taking in millions of different details subconsciously and we are working each other out through facial cues, pheromones, gait, stance, smiles, eye contact, etc etc etc: we have taken those 300 000 years of evolution and replaced that with flat screen interaction where we lose all that unseen evolutionary advantage and instead become brainwashed and trapped in rabbit holes of demented reality.
Flat screen interaction is warping our human capacity to tell what is true and what isn’t because we don’t have that sense of the person in front of us and all the million ways we asses each other in our evolved brain.
We have become an ocean of spite and resentment in an All Tribe No Village politics distorted by social media hate algorithms because 300 000 years of evolution can’t work in a flat screen interaction loneliness.
We need got fight against this anathematizing of our hopes and aspirations.
Turn that flat screen interaction into a platform where we can challenge this empty intimacy!
Brothers, Comrades, Mates & Fellow Blokes
There is a place for you on the NZ Left!
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Goodness me. Are we men that fragile? Yes, many of us are and thank you Martyn for reaching out to us.
How do you convince the individualistic, self reliant, ‘I don’t need any help’ Kiwi bloke that solidarity and compassion are relevant? That solidarity works.
@ C.S
Decriminalise good *MDMA. That’s how.
AI sez.
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Solidarity works if it has a spirit of reciprocity. Give and take on both sides. So far very little give or take from the Greens or TPM. Solidarity works if there is a common goal and equality of opportunity plus outcome. Greens showing any opportunity to CIS white males? TPM showing any opportunity for colonists? All they chant is white men evil.
You could argue that each party has a very narrowly focused identity in their political outcomes. Not suited to encompassing the interests off and showing compassion to, men (especially white) of New Zealand.
What comes first, left leaning political parties (Greens and TMP looking at you) embracing men (especially CIS white men) and providing policies that these men can relate to. Or men embracing left leaning parties in the hope that the left will soften (and indeed change) the rhetoric off all men being being violent, racist and colonists (or shades thereof).
I suggest the left parties need to show that MLM (men’s life’s matter) before you will see any flow leftwards from men voters.
I just cant see either party changing to attract the men’s vote in any significant manner.
When the greens focus on the hard questions about the environment rather than LGBT issues (where the whole spectrum is only 4.7% of the NZ population according to Stats NZ), men will be look at them. Until then, you can probably forget it. Look at the Green men. There’s no one your average bloke would have anything in common with and the party is run by two women with a lot to say and far too often not relevant to most men.
Agree. The Greens need to bring their real men forward and show the electorate that they exist.
They are standing for green issues which might be able to mitigate the future climate disaster.
They are hard-working ministers and usually have their heads down doing stuff. Not just trying to attract attention. They are blokey blokes.
The two women leaders do ‘have a lot to say’ but they are the leaders, aren’t they? Other leaders have a lot to say too, especially the ACT leader who is a real show-off and childish attention seeker.
As with TPM. Any little misdemeanor is jumped on whereas the really bad things that get done in parliament like passing laws under urgency when no urgency exists, penalising people for no reason other than their sex, various other selfish, blatantly corrupt dirty tricks, childish or grumpy-old-man stunts, go unpunished.
When you like someone their foibles are covered up, boys will be boys. When you don’t like someone, you take offense very easily and want those people chastised. This is very evident in parliament, usually with the tacit approval of the speaker.
Ennius – Ben Doyle = No male support
Does he wear Y Fronts
Only shows Y-frontery?
No wonder then
” I just cant see either party changing to attract the men’s vote in any significant manner ”
Great approach Bomber….But.
I wouldn’t be looking for salvation from the Green or LINO party. They embraced this whole stupid takeover ten years ago and the damage is plain to see. The Greens behavior over the last two terms of parliament has made me cynical that the party I supported and their polices have allowed themselves to morph into something I simply don’t relate to. And that has nothing whatsoever to do with a clear defined center left agenda.
Unless a new movement is formed that is independent of the baggage that the Greens and LINO carry then its futile.
Intelligence , common sense , intuition and real political tactics have been lost while the agenda has been stolen away.
There is a real opportunity right now to grab the initiative and bring everyone together who are under attack by this tyrannical government.
It can be done but I don’t see any clear or real alternative to the status quo.
With no alternative on the Left then more reason to vote National/ NZF/ ACT.
Not if you’re a Sheila wanting fair pay
Rich Sheila’s most likely vote Right Wing.
Joy and stand strong please keep putting up ideas.