Christchurch, the echo of Peter Ellis and toxic masculinity murder: A story of everything wrong with men in NZ
Good lord this terrible, terrible, terrible story from Christchurch manages to highlight all that is wrong with men in New Zealand.
There is an echo of the Peter Ellis hysteria and a toxic masculinity that stains all it touches.
In NZ the emotional range of men is incandescent rage, Sport excitement and depression.
That’s it.
On these far shores of these Shakey Isles, the hardest men from around the world sought to tame the Land of the Long White Cloud from shear physical effort to the creation of new ideas like the 40 hour working week.
We were sired by a nation of men demanding meritocracy beyond class constraints.
We were a country of inventors, well read workers and academics who built an egalitarian Nation with safety nets.
Over time that egalitarian nation was underfunded to the point of the safety nets being a mockery that entangled a new fatherless generation into poverty raised by angry solo mothers.
The two moments of universal experience that robbed NZ men of their emotional range and left them the stunted beings they have become was the ships home after war where post traumatic soldiers were told to bottle up everything they had seen to protect the women and children at home and the crash of the economy post Rogernomics where men committed suicide in vast numbers to hide the shame of unemployment.
Robbed of any emotional range beyond incandescent rage, Sport excitement and depression, NZ men fled their responsibilities as fathers, they fled their responsibilities as brothers and they fled their responsibilities as citizens.
In the post MeToo world, woke dogma presents all masculinity as toxic and a generation of girls are told all men will rape them and a generation of boys told they will be accused of rape.
Before Peter Ellis was charged with satanic sexual rituals, Christchurch had been host to a visiting American evangelical speaking tour warning of secret satanic child molestation cults operating secretly in society.
That reek of moral panic is the first thing that hits you when you read this terrible, terrible, terrible story…
Dad who left his son at the skate park killed a man who tried to help the boy home
It took just one punch for a man to kill a stranger who he wrongly thought had tried to abduct his son from a skate park.
The 32-year-old appeared in the High Court at Christchurch on Friday where he pleaded guilty to the manslaughter of Mewa Singh.
An interim order suppressing his name was continued until his scheduled sentencing in October.
…a solo Dad who is interacting with his son, who has picked up his kids from his ex partner (with all the open wounds that always holds), has taken his son to a skate park, clearly there are issues and frustrations because the kid refuses to come home with the Dad when he calls time.
Dad decides to be the big man, to show his son who is in charge and decides to leave him behind as a lesson that Dad won’t be disobeyed.
Dad returns to see if his lesson has worked only to see his son in the company of an Indian man.
Imagine the wild panic. Here was Dad trying to big balls it with his son, only to see his lesson has misfired and he has put his son at risk!
All that sense of fatherly achievement only to face the abyss of the fears his son has been abducted because of his attempt at fatherly discipline.
Could you imagine the self loathing, the self hatred, the naked fear as the Dad raced to confront the other man?
The Indian man was a Mewa Singh, a peaceful visitor to NZ who had found the son alone and had offered to help him out of the kindness of his heart and the decency that every man is capable of.
Except in NuZilind.
The Father, over come with a level of self righteous indignation that only self hate can manufacture sees only red as his actions are revealed to his Ex and despite her begging him not to leave, his pigheadedness and need to be right about the supposed threat of Mewa Singh sees him return, confront Singh and strike him so hard with one blow that he falls to the ground, hits his head and dies 2 days later.
Singh, 60, from India, had travelled to New Zealand to visit his son and grandson, and had been in the country for about four months.
The grief of this tragedy, the horror of all those broken aspects of masculinity racing together in a septic game of chicken manages to encapsulate all that is wrong with NZ men and our sense of the masculine.
It is such a terribly sad story of pain and loneliness and lost sense of identity.
A harvest of pity in the Land of the wrong uptight crowd.
As you say this is a tragic case however with an increasing number of voices insisting that there is no purpose for our existence & that people have to stand up for themself combined with the racism that exists among many people the end result can only get worse.
Ask the bear.
As you say Bonnie. Look at the toxic masculinity that spewed forth yesterday about the woman who wanted g-strings gone from the local pool.
No discussion of the rights and wrongs of g-strings in a confined public setting.
It was all about having a go at the mother for daring to raise her head above the parapet.
Looks like she had enormous ‘personal problems’ which she had never even known about before!!!
What luck that all those men knew what they were and were quite happy to inform her.
Too many people, often men, with too few facts and not much sense at their disposal.
Too quick to make a point and take charge of the situation.
Joy. Quite right. The male response to a g-string dialogue was pathological, and probably more so when it’s women, and mothers, who have always been the emotional and moral flag-holders in families. I think it was Prof Mary Daly – whose works I no longer have – who identified males as assuming control in just about every milieu, and too many women deferring to them when they shouldn’t. The personal vitriol poured on the New Plymouth mother was disgusting.
Bonnie. There may be no purpose for our existence, but that’s not really relevant. The terribly obscene dimension here is that an innocent undeserving Indian gentleman from an ethnicity which like other Asians, and Maori and Pacifica, respects and traditionally cares for its elders, was killed by a middle-aged thug from a social community which puts its elderly into care, where they are mainly tended by low-paid staff from the aforementioned ethnicities.
Bit too sentimental and applying kind, wishful generalisations for a thoughtful judgment I reckon. Feel free to sum up mine with reasons if wished.
While there might seem to be no connection between the New Zealand’s socio-economic course as initiated by the fourth Labour government, everything is connected. Labour’s reforms caused gross inequity, poverty and family breakdowns. The new social attitudes, the social state of mind if you will, grew out of isolation and distrust engendered by the totalitarian expansion of atheistic capitalism which effectively destroyed the fraternal institutions (for example trade unions, churches and sports clubs) or professionalized them so that they became mere adjuncts of the capitalist system. In this context sociopaths become the norm. Innocent people die, lives are destroyed and there is a massive social cost. But none of this appears on the balance sheets of the global corporations who now control the New Zealand government. We are now engaged in a war in which only the innocent are being killed. It is time to change that.
You sound as if you have thought hard about this type of thing; every sentence speaks fact, and observation, which is available to all who bother to query and ponder.
Pondering should be as common as riding bicycles. (But not at the same time – bikes need full attention as becoming Weapons of Random Destruction.) Perhaps more pondering, better! Thanks for your thoughts and background GF.
An angry man makes a mistake and lashes out like all bullies do . He caused a death but that was not the intention I am sure .Peter Ellis was a travesty of justice against the gay community by the establishment. I do not see how they are connected or make NZ any different to any other society. There are Male and female bullies everywhere ..
Never look at a child https://www.tiktok.com/@jimijackson/video/7386133472416468231
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/christchurch-man-killed-stranger-he-thought-was-abducting-his-son-from-skate-park/S2ECJLL6JVFBXEXDEWZ7EQEAYU/
There is no excuse for this murderous 32 years man carrying out an undisciplined anger rampage. He got his 7 year old son back safely, and then decided to go back to the skate park and find this other man and deal to him. That is what is wrong with many men in NZ – they don’t monitor themselves, can’t reason, don’t understand empathy, but tend to react negatively or hysterically to anything they don’t like.
It’s time that we did some pondering about the way that mothers and fathers are not given kind attention, and learning of parenting and personal skills (it is a difficult task to be a balanced, wise adult in this complex, mendacious society.) Once that was done, and people were able to apply themselves to living a good, productive life instead of being forced to grub around in what is allowed them at a low level, crime would be much less.
And business fraud would become the main object of disgust and hopefully, disgrace. But those in top positions with organisational power are complicit in the continuance of this amoral society and the wilful ignorance that enables it to continue. It fits with their twisted view of society and pays off for them in ways we don’t understand. So we are puzzled and need to ponder!