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  1. Then you’ve never sat in the Family Court in Greymouth. Where none of the points you’ve highlighted are evident.
    Where a woman with a protection order was made to wait 2 hours in a waiting room with her abuser and his family, while the judge was delayed by a flight. She got to witness all three lawyers: her own, the lawyer for the abuser and the lawyer for child greet each other like long lost friends and chat about a recent school reunion they had all attended together with the abuser’s mother and Aunt, whom they address by ‘pet’ names. Every one in that room stayed silent while her abuser taunted and threatened her. She was told she shouldn’t have a support person with her because she would be seen as ‘weak’ and she should prove she’s the mature one in the dispute and stand alone and righteous. Her support person had to fight to be allowed to wait outside the Court because ‘it’s a family issue, not a spectator sport’. Her abuser was allowed both his mother and Aunt into the room. She was g even a deadline to introduce sworn affidavits. Her lawyer decided they weren’t written in a way that judges like, so took them to ‘tidy up’. Judges don’t like too many words; judges don’t like emotive comments: you can’t put anything into an affidavit that is an accusation if it hasn’t been tested in the District Court’ Two affidavits that identified eye witness accounts of horrific abuse against the mother and one child, were destroyed because ‘even if the person saw it happen, he was never arrested and it’s only heresay’. The abuser had three affidavits all written by the same person giving emotive opinion and blatantly innaccurate ‘made up’ stories. They were admissable. The judge made a point of requesting that the lawyer for the victim should attend professional development to assist his management of witness statements and remarked on his consistently poor quality of written evidence. The abuser’s mother and Aunt negotiated a ‘deal’ with the support of the three lawyers outside of the court during the lunch hour: access to the children, she cannot remove them from the town without the permission of the family, they must attend a religous based school, they must reside with their abuser and his family through all religous holiday and family occasions, weekends and all school holidays – she can have the car, the furniture and the kids during the week. She didn’t agree to it, she stood on her own in that court and said it clearly: I’m not interested in property, I am concerned about the safety of my children.  I want to be heard.’ She was told by her lawyer that she must sit down and not anger the judge. The judge was impressed by the ‘family’ willingness to resolve the issues and congratulated them on a fair division of custody and access. then he ruled ‘in his minute’ that the victim must not leave the community, the children will attend the school requested by the ‘father’ (he was outside smoking by this time). The judge was not going to deal with property, the father and his family could see the children every second weekend, he had one phone call per week and they could alternate Christmas -the family can have every easter. She received a bill from NZ Law or $5000 because the case included property. Eventually she got a tape recording of a phone call the abuser made to the eight year old. In which he threatened to kill his mother and described in great detail how he was going to do it.  She took it back to court -by being dragged there for refusing to allow her children to go back to the house. The judge reused to hear it in Court because it was considered inadmissable, the abuser did not know he was being taped. He heard it though in his chambers – it was enough for him to return to the court and remove the abuser’s Guardianship over the children, he now has no parental rights. Two weeks later another judge gave the abuser’s mother access on the condition that the abuser was never left alone with the children. so they went to the house where the thug was now under a 23 hour curfew awaiting a trial on a charge of attempted murder ( not his family though, another drunk in a pub), and she went off to work leaving them with him. That was 10 years ago. Four weeks ago the abuser broke into that woman’s home when her son and his friend were asleep in their beds and assaulted the boys. just to prove he still can – the boys won’t make statements because he’s threatened the hounger brother and mother if they ‘talk’. The police auggested a Protection Order -Women’s Refuge weren’t keen, in the local view: ‘you can’t really do anything about it, in Domestic Violence cases, it’s really hard to get a Criminal conviction without a witness statement, it’s just your word against his’. Only, this isn’t Domestic Violence any more, it’s a Home Invasion – it won’t go anywhere near family court. Family Court is a joke in Greymouth -it stands firmly in the way of protecting family.

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