GUEST BLOG: Ruby Joy – Open Letter to Pastor Brian about Bishop Brian



Dear pastor Brian

It’s been along time since you spoke, and I thought perhaps it’s been a long time since anyone spoke to you too.

It seems a bishop has come and taken your body, your spirit, your life, and your once community church and turned it into a mega church almost completely at odds with your humble beginnings of loving fellowship atop an emptied out industrial warehouse.

Maybe you don’t know what’s going on or who this bishop man that’s using your skin is so let me fill you in.

You know your little church in Tauranga that used to welcome all? Well he’s taken it and moved it out south, it’s massive, it’s extravagant, and it’s exclusive now.

Remember the young people that used to play sport in the auditorium and have a refuge from the violence on the streets? Now he’s teaching them hate towards their fellow man, firing them up with notions of religious war and sending them back out to the streets of Auckland to further the violence and fear you sought to protect them from.

The recording studio that encouraged teens to be creative and free, (I myself recording my first song in it), he took it down, and he’s stunting their creativity, killing their individuality and swapping their expressive freedom and young wondering minds for brainwashing and conformity.

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And I’m sorry to tel you pastor Brian the bishop has even taken your men’s ministry and twisted perhaps your greatest work of domestic violence awareness and replaced it with the very gender stereotypes you worked so hard to abolish.

The men that you taught to rise up and look hard at their abusive behaviour towards their wives, children, and fellow man and admit fault, get help and change from abuser of the weak to protector of the vulnerable, they are getting shoved back into their former stereotypical roles, angry, macho, entitled.

The woman that you sheltered with your own arm and the children that hung off your not so designer church suit to feel safe, now tremble once again at the fists of the men you delved into the hearts of and patiently taught to humbly love.

The faith community that began to talk for the first time about the rampant problem of toxic masculinity, power and control, and violence now speaks of the bishops proclamations of fear and hatred. The community you brought together into the almost light of understanding, now divided half thinking the bishop is crazy and swearing off anything you ever taught them and the other half blindly following the other of this man they still think is you.

So as you can see pastor Brian it’s bad, this bishop fellow has taken over and you are nowhere to be seen.

He has many followers now many whom you loved and held dear to your own heart not so long ago, he’s toxic and the pollution of his teachings is spreading fast. We need you pastor Brian, for only you can reach the heart of this twisted bishop and love him back to understanding.

I asked you for help a long time ago as a ratty little 13 year old and you put your big strong hand on my small weary one and told me it would be OK, you told me to come back anytime and ask for pastor Brian if I ever needed help.

Well I’m back and I’m asking for pastor Brian because your faith community need your help to deal with this bishop Tamaki that only you can fight.

Yours sincerely and hoping this will reach you

Ruby joy


Ruby is a 25 year old sex worker, and social activist. Lives in Auckland


  1. Why didn’t he keeps his views to himself at a time when many NZers are hurting and how come NZers and our PM have condemned his hate speech but they lapped up Trumps nasty vile bullshert

    • Well, don’t you remember Tamaki and his church were becoming politically active at one stage?… so naturally Key and his mates have seized an opportunity to put in the boot , rightly or wrongly – that’s the real motive.

      As for lapping up every word Trump says, again its playing politics. Trump will soon be President and all we are seeing is our own politicians sniffing which way the wind blows.

      • Yes wild katipo ,Key was Clinton and Obamas puppet, dont think he can be Trumps puppet, Key played all the dirty tricks Clinton has,Trump probably wont have a bar of him.

  2. Me thinks these people are just piling on the “sensationalism” to get some attention now.

    Childish behaviour all.

  3. The mangy old cat that is our ‘ free society ‘ coughs up all kinds of hair balls. It licks its backside and feeds its worms.
    If you want to own a cat you must also put up with its mewling at the fridge door.
    Tamaki is a bi-product of a Libertine section of society that has not much more to worry about than to be judged for their supposed sins and so they call upon snake oil sales persons like Slick is his sunnies. Stupid fuckers.

  4. The Bishop’s comments are so absurd, so idiotic that condemnation scarcely seems necessary. However, my Facebook feed has been full of virtue-signalling op-eds stating the obvious… kinda like reading column after column telling me that Hitler was a bad chap/a dastardly fellow/a nasty piece of work.

    Far more interesting to me is this effort to instead try to explain the better elements of a man and his movement. Because I’ve often heard about the good work Destiny has done in marginalised communities.

    Is this true? Do they? I have no idea. But this account – unusually nuanced for an open letter – gives some insight into the appeal of the church. Maybe it’s not just a combination of brainwashing and the credulous. Maybe the Bishop, at least in his earlier incarnation, did offer love, hope and whanau to those without all three.

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