The last couple of weeks of terrible evidence of just how much rape culture permeates every inch of our culture.
The remarkable behaviour of the Chiefs with a dancer, compounded by the way Management decided to denigrate her, compounded by the way the Sponsor asked her what she expected, compounded by her employer finally deciding to fire her altogether was such a bewildering train wreck of sexist victim blaming garbage it was difficult not to bang your head against a wall with each passing story.
The case of two women who complained about being touched in a Wellington bar and the way that bar shat all over them felt like we were going backwards.
And the case of the hung jury over a young Cricketeers allegation of rape when the woman had clearly said no 3 times felt like we have really learned bugger all.
In each case it’s the bias of ordinary people that can’t accept a woman’s right not to be touched when she says no.
This is a cultural problem that you solve long term with far more openness about sex, saying yes and no to sex and what consent really means.
But in the short term, until those messages kick in, what do we do about all those cases currently failing and seeing no real justice?
The right to decide how you will be judged is an incredible protection, but if you are constantly sourcing a Jury that are as ignorant and biased as the person committing the rape, then you will never see justice.
If we went down Judge only trials, we would need to see the extra investment into Judges to be fully trained in the complexities of sexual assault and we would need to see a far larger gender and ethnicity mix of Judges.
That way we remove much of the bias and bigotry from the Jury process and put more faith in well educated Judges to make the decision.
We need some extreme solutions to the sexual assault crisis we have in this country and if people are too slow to accept a women right to say no, then replace those people until that long term education process is complete.