The last few days must have been some of the worst in your life.
I know how it feels. So do many other women. You’re not alone.
There are some real scum in this country, who love nothing better than digging for secrets and painfully exposing them to the world. They don’t care about your wellbeing, your family, your life. All they care about is using their repressed sexuality and hypocritical views on what a good woman and a dirty woman is to rip you to shreds.
Because in their sad little world, none of the amazing things you’ve done in your life mean anything. You could be a saint and all they would care about is spreading hate. But that does not and should not take away how far you have come. It might feel like it right now, but it doesn’t. You have every right to be proud of where you are. I’ve never met you and I hate cooking shows, but I’m proud of you. A lot of us are sitting here right now wishing we could give you a big hug.
So many women have, at some point in their lives, had to do something we wouldn’t do now to get through. We are politicians, doctors, nurses, teachers, lawyers, TV stars – you name a profession and you’ll find dubiously-backgrounded wonderful women succeeding in it. I’m one of them. I used to be a sex worker. The sad little men have made many attempts to shame me for that. It used to get to me, but now I laugh in the face of their sickness – because I am using my life to make a difference, while they use theirs to spread bile.
It might feel like there are more sad little men than us, especially because they are so vociferously loud behind their laptop screens, but we are many and they are few. Because we are fundamentally good people, who didn’t always make the wisest decisions, but would do whatever it takes to care for our families. That fundamental goodness is permanent, and we flourish and continue to positively contribute to our communities in numerous ways – some more public than others, but all worthwhile. They fester in their hatefulness and drown in their hypocrisy – increasingly loathed and ridiculed by the majority of the population.
We got your back. You’re awesome. You deserve to succeed. You deserve to have the past kept in the past – but now it’s not, we’re standing beside you as fellow wonderful women (and men) who understand there’s more to someone than the sexual activities of their youth – public or private. You are a precious, loved and talented woman, mother, daughter, partner and human being.
Kia kaha wahine ma!
(Stand strong, beautiful woman!)