Rachel Smalley ain’t happy.
No, this time it’s about damaged women having children.
This isn’t the first time Rach has had an opinion on solo mums, last year she was demanding Spanish inquisitions for any woman not handing the details of the birth father over to tax officials.
She’s a wee charmer our Rach.
Everytime it is noted that a beneficiary has children the immediate question that springs to everyones bloody lips is ‘why are you having a kid if you can’t afford them you filthy scumbag piece of shit”.
In unison they joyfully cry out, “Why do we have to pay for your filthy stinking maggot children”.
As a chorus they cheerfully sing, “Haven’t you fucking heard of the pill you fucking slut”.
Etc, etc, etc.
As a cis male member of the heteropatriachy, it ain’t for me to step in and pretend to be an expert on how women and their identity towards having children should or shouldn’t be supported, but I can hazard some guesses.
Our cult of motherhood is a basic plank and pillar of our entire society. We all love our Mums, Mums are amazing, we all buy her crap for Mothers Day and Mums are always thanked whenever someone wins anything.
So we all love our Mums.
Except when it comes to paying them equally like men.
Except when they are being beaten up and staying.
Except when they get pregnant and can’t afford it.
In a world where motherhood is the only role we as a society openly celebrate women to embrace with gushing warmth, is it any wonder women who are hurt or damaged like Oriwa Kemp (who Smalley threatens with forced sterilisation), constantly seek that motherhood adoration while failing at being good mothers?
Doesn’t the desire to keep having children tell us how limited the roles for women are in modern society? What if we celebrated women scientists, lawyers, teachers or doctors with the same passion as we celebrate the myth of motherhood?
If I were a poor, broke woman with little respect given and few roles offered, I can see the romance and self fulfilling fantasy of having a child to give meaning and purpose to my life. I can see why so many women decide to grasp desperately at that identity and ultimately collapse because the reality is so hollow.
That’s why I don’t scream ‘why are they having babies’ as if the answer wasn’t in front of our faces.
Smalley’s ‘feminism’ is the same kind of middle class ‘feminism’ we see gaining increasing traction in modern NZ. All about ‘me’ and ‘my’ career options minus any empathy for the ‘us’.
If we made all young girls feel wanted and included for who they are and what they can contribute to our society rather than hold their womb up as the only purpose for them being here, we wouldn’t feed the hypercritical cult of motherhood the way we currently do.